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lucillenyc wrote:How old are you Barbiegirl and what do you do? I used to wear fake glasses when I was younger to try to look older and more professional. Now I realize how ridiculous that was, lol. I am 26 (will be 27 in a few weeks though) and am a nutritionist. I was out for dinner with my family last spring and the waiter thought I was younger than my 17 year old sister, who also looks young for her age! I get you on the glasses thing, lol, I have actually considered doing the same.
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pauluk wrote:I get you absolutely. However, I don't want to look too old to take on work that people think should go to someone "young" - so swings and roundabouts.. If in the workplace people think I am earky 30s, I don't tend to correct them..
I know what you mean. But you are so adorable that I think it suits you.
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Only if I slip and forget my actual age by a year like I did recently...on the low side. 52. 53. What's the difference? Ugh. I may be in denial, too.
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I tend to add 10 years to my real age to match the face.
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kk25 wrote:I tend to add 10 years to my real age to match the face. Shut up you pretty thing, before I come slap you. *smack* ;-)
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Shaz wrote:
Shut up you pretty thing, before I come slap you. *smack* ;-)
Shaz Thanks, but in my case is easier and more believable because I appear older, honestly I get embarrassed to say the true age.
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I haven't lied yet, but will not rule it out in the future. TRUE STORY: My younger brother was going out with a woman when he was early 40's. She claimed to be early 50's. When people in my family would meet her we would "exchange glances" and later wonder about her real age, because she was clearly late 50's or older. She LOOKED late 50's or older. Yet, my brother would say "she's only in her early 50's" So I think clearly he WANTED to believe she was younger, because part of him wouldn't want to think of himself as going out with someone that old (or someone that much older). So I really think she HAD to lie to my brother, or he wouldn't have even considered her as a girlfriend. He didn't care about how old she looked, he only cared about how old she actually was (or what he believed she was).......... With that much going against us as we get older, who could blame us if we lie?
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It sounds like the agreement worked out for both of them!
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yep!
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NancyS wrote: He didn't care about how old she looked, he only cared about how old she actually was (or what he believed she was)..........
I have always thought that people start to think of you as old or young by the age you tell them - even if they think you look a bit older or younger than your age, their minds start to "accept" you for the age you tell them you are - unless you look way way older or younger than your alleged age LOL - I have a friend who also tried this as an experiment - she used to work as a temp - which means she was generally on one week- two week assignments at various law firms in Boston - to check out this theory she would lie and give people various ages - much older and younger than her actual age - and with very few exceptions most people believed her - or at least didn't look too surprised - My friend was actually 37 but in one firm told a few people she was 53 and in a few other firms told them she was 27 - and in both cases no one batted an eyelash - in the one where she told them she was 53 most of them went "Wow you look great" and then older 50ish women would seek her out and chitchat - and in cases where she told them she was 27 they treated her like a young person and teased her about marrying her boyfriend - now my friend does look young but I do think she does not look 27 and nor does she look old enough to be 53 - so I think the reason for this behavior is that people generally start to believe the age you tell them you are - or maybe my friend had the kind of "ageless" look that people who have a lot of plastic surgery have - what do you guys think of this theory???
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People try to get along and will agree with a harmless fantasy.
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stache wrote:People try to get along and will agree with a harmless fantasy. Stache: I think people truly believed my friend - she is a perceptive person and would have caught on if they hadn't - I think she was at that "inbetween" age where she could be any age - but I do think people at other ages can get away with this within reason -
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Stache:
I think people truly believed my friend - she is a perceptive person and would have caught on if they hadn't - I think she was at that "inbetween" age where she could be any age - but I do think people at other ages can get away with this within reason -
I do believe that people actually believed she was younger, since it's not unrealistic for many women these days in their 30s to look like late 20s. I know plenty of them. Plus, many people are not very good at judging age anyway. There are also plenty of women 27 who look older, esp. if they have partied hard and suntanned alot. I also agree with people treating you differently based on the age they 'think' you are. Many people have preconceived notions about what people 'should' be doing or acting at certain ages. For example, if they think someone is 40 and not married with no kids, many will think something is 'wrong' with that woman. Maybe not everyone, but many people are very judgemental. People also associate youth with good, and admire youth in many ways. So if someone age 25 for example, makes it to higher management, they will be more amazed or praise them more than someone who is say 45. Not to say the older person may not be praised, but people often think accomplishments done at a young age is more admirable. That's understandable, but some people actually judge the fact that someone is over 35 and still a working in a low status job, if they are. Many people are simply very judgemental. I just think people asking someone's age is very rude, and a personal thing that people shouldn't be expected to divulge. I know many people are proud of their age, and don't mind saying it. But there's so many stereotypes in society, and there is still a stigma associated with being over a certain age. I have overheard many conversations of people talking about how a woman 45ish shouldn't be making such a big fuss over her wedding since she's middle aged anyway..or people saying how so and so shouldn't have long hair at her age, or that so and so can't let go of youth since he still goes to hard rock concerts (person was 36). Some people think of 'youth' as a very very short time period and anything over 30 is old. Kind of sad to think that way. Or some people may not think that way, but are envious when others can do things they can't for whatever reason. But many people associate an 'age' with certain categories to place people. Since most people are not that good at perceiving exact ages, just letting them 'think' you are certain age group, I think wouldn't make them wonder if you are lying. It's weird how just a few yrs can change people's perception of you. I think it's different in other parts of the world. I have a Japanese female friend, early 30s, who says in Japan it's considered rude to ask a person their age, and women rarely say their age. They don't necessarily lie, but don't like to provide that information. I think it's a very personal question, and never ask anyone their age.
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kk25 wrote:
but in my case is easier and more believable because I appear older,
honestly I get embarrassed to say the true age.
I feel embarrassed about my true age (28), but would never add more than 1-2 years. What is the point of having people think you ARE older as opposed to just looking older. Anyway, sure I saw your pics and you look young and pretty. Got nothing to worry about honestly.
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