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This was brought up in the "would you rather be prettier or younger" thread, but I think it would make a good topic on its own.
Do you tell people your true age or do you try to hide it?
I hide it!! I am almost 32 but am told I look like I am in my mid-20's. Maybe it's because I am a dancer competing with 20 year olds or living in Mexico where 32 is considered OLD - but I am ashamed of my age! It doesn't help that I got carded last time I in NYC and the bouncer exclaimed, "Damn, you're old!" when he saw my ID. I usually tell people I'm 27.
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I lied until the end of my 40s or avoided the subject. Now, I don't bother. I stopped hiding it about two years ago. At some point, it really does not matter. We all get old, we all get wrinkles and we all die. It's just too much work as you get older to avoid the truth or deny it, there's less time left for the BS. Now, do I OFFER how old I am to everyone? Nope. It's really none of their business but I won't lie if I'm asked now. Edited to add: I don't like to talk about age at work, it can lead to an uncomfortableness for some reason.
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Usually if someone asks my age at work I give them a blank stare. In other situations I just tell.
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No, I've never lied about my age. If I were to ever lie, I'd do as was mentioned in the other thread, and lie the other way. I'd rather people be thinking "damn, she looks good for 50" than saying I'm 40 (I'm really 45), and having them thinking "yikes, she looks old for 40." But I don't mind telling my age. I definitely had a much harder time turning 30 than I did 40. Thirty was a killer for me. I actually bawled, and that started around 29 actually. I didn't mind 40 at all, or any of my 30s. I guess I got it all cried out at 30 and then snapped out of it. Leaving the 20s is hard. To me I felt I could no longer fake being a kid. I definitely, without a doubt, had no more excuses. Course with an 8 and 5 year old I should have felt like an adult already...
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About 10 years ago I had no problem divulging my age because when I was younger people thought I was about 8 years younger than my age.
I'm not getting the wide eyed "no way!" responses when I do tell my age today. People think I'm younger but not 8 years younger.
It doesn't bother me to tell my age now because I feel and act youthful. Most of my friends are younger than me and my husband is 4 years younger too.
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When I was 19 I could buy alcohol with no ID.
There have also been some situations where someone mistook me for being 5-10 years older than I am and I just kinda went along with it....or i just didnt correct them.
One time I was hanging with some random group of people and we got to talking about american idol. I jokingly said I would do a performance of a j-pop song just to see if I could end up on the blooper reel. Then one of the girls said "I think you're too old to audition" I asked how old the maximium age was and she said "28".
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When I was 34 and my brother's wife had a baby I came out to help her take care of the baby. She is one year older than me. Anyway, we were in the grocery store and she ran into someone from work she knew, and I was holding the baby and this bitch says to me, while looking at the baby "are you grandma?" WTF I was 34. I could not figure out how on earth she thought I could be a grandma anyway (yeah, I know it happens to some by that age, but when you are 34 you are not thinking it happens to you). But the worse was how on earth she thought I was my SIL's mother? I cried over that one, but finally you just have to realize that some people are clueless. I do think I looked older than my age before my FL at 40, for sure, but not sure I looked THAT much older and at 34! I used to get those comments here and there, and my mom used ask me "how is it so many people are always telling you that you look old?" Well, nobody said it like that. They always made those kinds of comments where they just assumed I was older and went with it. I never make any assumptions on a persons age. Deadly!
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AnnieB wrote:When I was 34 and my brother's wife had a baby I came out to help her take care of the baby. She is one year older than me. Anyway, we were in the grocery store and she ran into someone from work she knew, and I was holding the baby and this bitch says to me, while looking at the baby "are you grandma?"
WTF I was 34. I could not figure out how on earth she thought I could be a grandma anyway (yeah, I know it happens to some by that age, but when you are 34 you are not thinking it happens to you). But the worse was how on earth she thought I was my SIL's mother?
I cried over that one, but finally you just have to realize that some people are clueless. I do think I looked older than my age before my FL at 40, for sure, but not sure I looked THAT much older and at 34!
I used to get those comments here and there, and my mom used ask me "how is it so many people are always telling you that you look old?" Well, nobody said it like that. They always made those kinds of comments where they just assumed I was older and went with it.
I never make any assumptions on a persons age. Deadly! Annie I hear ya, we took our two older kids,(at the time they were like 25,22) and our 3 yr. old to Hawaii for a family vacation. My husband I were booking a bike tour while the older ones were watching the little one. He kept referring to them as "the family" to the lady while getting the tickets. She calls on the phone to arrange a bus for us and says that everyone is riding a bike except for the little one and the GRANDMA! I let it go the first time, but she somehow said it twice more, so I corrected her, rather loudly, that I was the MOM not the grandma. She wasn't even apologetic, just said, well your husband said they were a family, I just assumed she was their child, then went on to say there are many young grandmothers in Hawaii, blah blah I totally agree about making assumptions!!
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I don't hide it but I don't advertise it either. I used to be one of those who looked a lot younger than my real age. In the last year or so it's caught up with me. I still have a young looking body but lately an older and older looking face. With fillers and botox, I'm not bad from 10 ft or so. No gray hair, good skin, no lines or wrinkles, but my small bone structure is not aging well. I'm looking more and more like "The Scream" painting - I need a new head!
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Psst, hiding the ears does not make you look younger! LOL!
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Until I had my lower bleph at 32, people thought I was 10 years younger than what I was. After the bleph I started to look closer to my actual age (Im 37). I always tell people my age, and wait for their comments to see how well I am, or aren't aging =).
Also, my prefernce would always be to look young rather than pretty.
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I've never had a problem being honest with my age. I used to look a good 10-15 years younger than I actually was, and got pleasure from the disbelief people voiced when I told them my true age. Now that I'm 54, I still have people think I'm in my early 40's, but I think I look my age. I've aged a lot in the past year. Menopause has taken it's toll. No wrinkles, but the face is falling. I either have to get over my fear of having a face lift or accept my aging body. I think I would have an easier time accepting getting older if I hadn't always looked so young.
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^^^^ Totally agree with your post.
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Sadie wrote:I think I would have an easier time accepting getting older if I hadn't always looked so young. Yip, that's the same for me also.
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I am honest about my age even though I am objectively young. I do look quite young for my age, which I know I will appreciate in the future; even though it bothers me now. You would be surprised how hard it is to be taken seriously professionally when you look like you are 18. I am always ID'd, which doesn't really bother me. For my 19th birthday (the drinking age is 19 in BC), the bouncer didn't believe that my ID was actually real, and almost kicked me out! It took both my drivers license and student photo ID along with everything in my wallet with my name on it to convince him that I actually was who I said I was.
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Yes, I lie about my age. I tell everyone I'm 68 even tho I'm 54. OK. That's a lie. I always give my real age. And to my irritation, I even add a year altho my birthday is 6 mos away. So now I'm 55 ... even tho I won't be for several months. I even punch my real age into the treadmill and glider at the gym. And who the phuck cares about that? I am incapable of telling a lie. Well, at least 99.9% of the time. I think.
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I hated that when I was younger but it IS great now! barbiegirl wrote:I am honest about my age even though I am objectively young. I do look quite young for my age, which I know I will appreciate in the future; even though it bothers me now. You would be surprised how hard it is to be taken seriously professionally when you look like you are 18. I am always ID'd, which doesn't really bother me. For my 19th birthday (the drinking age is 19 in BC), the bouncer didn't believe that my ID was actually real, and almost kicked me out! It took both my drivers license and student photo ID along with everything in my wallet with my name on it to convince him that I actually was who I said I was.
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pauluk wrote:I hated that when I was younger but it IS great now!
I know it will be! It is just hard now professionally when people are like "who is this kid in front of me? She can't possibly have these designations"
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How old are you Barbiegirl and what do you do? I used to wear fake glasses when I was younger to try to look older and more professional. Now I realize how ridiculous that was, lol.
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I get you absolutely. However, I don't want to look too old to take on work that people think should go to someone "young" - so swings and roundabouts.. If in the workplace people think I am earky 30s, I don't tend to correct them.. barbiegirl wrote:
I know it will be! It is just hard now professionally when people are like "who is this kid in front of me? She can't possibly have these designations"
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